John 17: 21a May they all be one, as You, Father, are in Me and I am in You. (HCSB)
Opinions
opinion: a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty. (Dictionary.com)
I have a lot of opinions. I like my opinions a lot. I instinctively want to defend my opinions, and to persuade others to my point of view. I don't like changing my opinions, and so I don't do that very often (maybe not often enough). I will readily admit that I am probably wrong about some of my opinions. But when you pin me down on a particular opinion, I generally won't think that opinion is one of the ones I am wrong about. After all, if I thought it was wrong, I wouldn't hold that opinion. I am so sure of some of my opinions that I consider them to be facts.
I instinctively like people who share my opinions. The more of my opinions a person shares, the more I tend to like that person. I find it harder to be close to someone who does not share my opinions, especially on important subjects.
The church is fertile ground for forming opinions. Many of our interpretations of scripture rest on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty. These are the topics that Paul calls "disputable matters" in Romans 14:1. Perhaps these ideas are reasonable inferences from scripture, but there is enough ambiguity to leave the conclusion uncertain. We have a tough time admitting that our position is merely opinion, and not the indisputable doctrine of Christ. We need to be reminded that we are fallible.
Differing opinions in the church have led to division after division, precisely because people did not follow Paul's instructions in Romans 14. People have not been willing to give unity with their brother priority over their opinions. People have clung to their perceived rights, to the detriment of their brothers and sisters who hold a different opinion. People have promoted their opinions, lobbying people to one side or another of some controversial issue. As a result, things that need not divide brothers have ended up dividing them.
There are times when we need to keep our opinions to ourselves (Rom 14:22) Sometimes I allow myself to be drawn into online discussions that turn into quarrels. Quarrels are not constructive, especially in public. Arguing about a controversial subject in public can be like shouting "Fire!" in a crowded theater. It feeds the unspiritual side of our nature. It tends to divide rather than to unite. These are the very times when we need to keep our opinions to ourselves.
The Restoration Movement needs to learn this lesson. We need to be full of grace and humbly to recognize that we may be wrong about a thing or two. We must live by our understanding of scripture, but we must recognize that our brothers who disagree with us must also live by their own consciences. It is before God that they stand or fall, and God is able to make them stand.
I have lived long enough to learn that I will never persuade everyone to my opinion on any subject, let alone all subjects. I have decided that my energies would be better spent bringing people together rather than promoting my opinions. May God help me to be a peacemaker rather than a debater.
We do not ask them to give up their opinions--we ask them only not to impose them upon others. Let them hold their opinions, but let them hold them as private property. The faith is public property; opinions are, and always have been private property. -- Alexander Campbell